I REALLY don't like it when.....
MOMS, YOUR THOUGHTS AND OPINIONS NEEDED!
A few months ago I was in Walmart :P with three VERY small children.
Law was being a very happy playful self -which is rare so I REALLY enjoy these moments.
Not bothering anyone or anything just being happy, laughing, and playing
when an old man came around the corner and SH'd him harshly it caught him off guard he was scared and sad.
I didn't do anything -not because I agreed with the man that he needed to 'SSHHH!!'
but because I just didn't know what to do!
I have regretted not saying something to that man ever since.
We are a loud family and Law does have a big voice but he didn't need to do that it was rude and uncalled for.
Today I visited that same Walmart for the first time since then and my boys were running around the cart as I was checking out -just being happy, not being destructive at all -and believe me I'd be the first to admit if they were being too rowdy -it's not uncommon. However this time, like the last, they were just being happy racing between the cart and the little checkout fridge.
When an older man -an employee came up and scolded them each with a firm "don't touch that!" -meaning the fridge scaring them.
I finished checking out then went up to him with a smile, he smiled back, then I said, "I'm not meaning to be disrespectful and I thank you to let me or my children know if they are doing something inappropriate however I'd greatly appreciate it if you used a 'please' next time."
Demeaning as it may sound if he feels it appropriate to reprimand my children where I don't see fit, I feel it's appropriate to remind him to use his manners as he does so.
Nevertheless his smile faded quickly into a sarcastic smirk eyes rolling and looking away.
Do you know how hard it is to take 3 kids under 5 to the store for a couple hours to get grocery shopping done? When they're sincerely good I FULLY love it and think of it as a miracle!
My children have great manners and we do our best to reinforce that by using please, thank you, excuse me, etc with them on a regular, daily basis.
They are expected to use their manners, so we treat them with the same respect.
I don't want them thinking that I would let them be attacked and feel scared when they feel they aren't -and weren't- doing anything wrong.
I was as positive and polite as I could possibly be.
Was I in the wrong is there a better way to manage this situation?
If you have some advice I would LOVE to hear it I want HONEST feed back!